We told our siblings our news yesterday. 🙂
I have been on the fence about when to tell them because I have been so incredibly anxious. I keep thinking, “after the NEXT ultrasound, I’ll feel comfortable enough to tell them.” But then an appointment would come and go and I would totally lose my nerve and decide it was MUCH too early to be discussing this. But it’ll be 10 weeks tomorrow (knock on wood that everything is okay with the babies) and that actually seems like sorta above and beyond when family should know. I don’t know….I read numerous blogs where siblings are told immediately and I guess I always thought if we ever got pregnant that’s what I’d do, too. As it turned out, I was physically too anxious to do that. But it was also really bothering me that my HR guy knew about my pregnancy and our brothers and sisters didn’t! (I’ll update on how that HR meeting went soon.) When would you tell your sibs if you were pregnant? Or when did you tell them if you’ve been through this?
So, with deep breaths, I decided it was time. (Hubs was just like, whenever you’re ready is fine with me.)
My older brother is a doctor and works more than 100 hours a week. I figured it would take a week or more to get him on the phone, but I reached him in under an hour (amazing!). We caught up for a while and then I gave him the news. He was really sweet and happy for us. He said his wife was going to be really really jealous and my heart tugged a bit. I’ve heard via my Mom that they “might” be having some issues themselves and I know how heart-wrenching it is to be the one finding out someone close to you is pregnant, as happy as you are for them. I didn’t want him or her to think this just fell in our laps, so I told him that we’d been trying a really long time and that I was dealing with some pretty intense anxiety. He put it all together and very kindly asked, “Did you have to take a little something, is that what’s up with the twins?” (He’s a doctor AND my brother so I’m not surprised he zeroed in on that!) I’m guarding this IF secret pretty closely (I don’t really know why), but I would never lie to my brother. So I said yeah, and asked him to keep it between us if he didn’t mind. I’m sure he’ll tell his wife, and that’s totally okay, if they really are having trouble I hope this takes some of the sting out of it for her. Anyway, he also told me to stay off Google (ha!) and that I have to trust my body. I love him so much.
My little sister started crying as soon as I told her. She doesn’t know about the extent of infertility struggles, but she knows we have have been trying for a long time. It made me start crying, too.
My little brother was super cutie. He kept saying, “Ahhhhhh! I am so so so happy!” He’s nine years younger than me and I grew up changing his diapers and baby-sitting him. He was like, “Can you still do the Turkey Trot with Dad and me on Thanksgiving morning?” (The answer, I sure hope so, I’ll shuffle/walk the 5K if I have to!) He’s my little guy.
My brothers and sister are all such good, good eggs and it was awesome being able to share this with them. They were all sworn to secrecy and we won’t tell another soul until we’re 100% comfortable—probably after our next big ob-gyn appointment in October—not even our closest friends.
Since my entire family is scattered across the country, it was pretty awesome to be able to talk to all of them in one day—not just about this pregnancy stuff, but about their lives and work and grad school and how fun it will be to see each other at Thanksgiving and all of that stuff. While I was making my phone calls, hubs was talking to his brother and sister, too. I didn’t hear their reactions but it sounds like they weren’t quite as emotional as my sibs. Shocking, no, that being emotional runs in my family!? 🙂
I’m still anxious pretty much all of the time, and still hoping with my entire heart and every cell in my body that these babies are safe and sound and growing every day and that they’re going to make it. But sharing the news with all of them makes it feel more “real.” It felt so real that we even allowed ourselves to (gasp!) look at cribs online yesterday afternoon while watching football games (GO CHIEFIES!). Woah.
It was a wonderful, amazing day. I am so grateful and lucky and happy to be right here, right now.