Let’s do that again next week, shall we?

After tossing and turning all night and finally getting up for good by 5am because I couldn’t sleep, I am happy to report that I survived the anatomy scan! Yip! Everything is okay. I repeat, everything is okay. But we have to repeat the scan, this time at level 2, with an Maternal Fetal Medicine specialist (MFM) next Wednesday, because of a little spot on Baby B’s heart. I will explain more about that in a sec, but first, I am pleading with you to please please please NOT write comments like “Oh no!” and “I hopeย everything is okay.” Yes, I know I am putting this out there and any of you can say what she wants, but….please? I need positivity and reassurance right now sweet bloggies. The truth is that I am too weak and fragile to read worry in your words. Thank you in advance.

*****

So now for the drumroll news, the gender(s)……..

Baby A is a BOY!!!!!

And…………

Baby B is a GIRL!!!!!

We are so so so so lucky and blessed to be growing these sweet, beautiful, happy babies. ๐Ÿ™‚ We love them so, so, so VERY much. I have said it before but the honest to goodness truth is we would be thrilled no matter what their genders. But it is SO FUN that we have one of each and now we can finally think about names and clothes and nursery decor. Yip yip yip!!!!!!!!!

The ultrasound took about 90 minutes-ish. The tech was very nice, but also very unemotional/poker faced, but she told us everything was checking out great. It was easy to see them moving around and being adorable and measuring ahead of sked at 21w6d when I am technically, based on IUI date, 20w4d. And they are both 13 ounces.

Our little boy’s placenta is posterior (on the back), while our little girl’s is anterior (in the front), which helps explain why I’m only getting gentle bumpity bumps at this point. (A placenta in the front can buffer the kicks and make them more difficult to feel.) The tech said now that I’m feeling things at night, it should really begin to pick up.

*****

So everything finished up fine and then we met with Dr. Zen for my 20-week check-up. I ask all of my Qs, she’s being great and Dr. Zen-ish, everything is going great, I’m practically floating off the exam table and my cheeks are flushed with with INTENSE relief and joy and am thinking, Okay, time to put on my coat and for us to call our parents with the news that we passed the anatomy scan! But then Dr. Zen says she has some results from the scan that she wishes she didn’t have to even mention, but she is required to tell us about by “standard of care” laws.

Baby B had a tiny calcification on the left ventricle of her heart, in technical terms it’s called an “echogenic intracardiac foci.” It is not effecting her heart’s functioning in any way. But back in the 90s, before they had developed the NT Scan and Quad tests to screen for chromosomal abnormalities, this was deemed one of a series of “soft markers” for down’s syndrome. Now, because we passed both the NT Scan and Quad Screen with a totally low risk of down’s, and because we are young and healthy, and especially because there are NO OTHER soft markers evident, the liklihood that Baby B isn’t 100% healthy is very very very slim.

But it’s the law that Dr. Zen has to tell us (so we can’t sue the clinic later or something) and the protocol is to send me to the MFM, who will repeat Baby B’s scan next Wednesday with even more intense measurements and special concentration on her heart and other soft marker areas…and then (hopefully) tell me the same thing….that Baby B is fine, but she has a harmless calcification. (I don’t suppose anyone has been through this and can comment or email me with their experience, by any chance?) We can also opt for an amnio if we want one. But we are really leaning away from it, due to the (admittedly very small) risk to the baby (which is increased in twins).

Baby B was SO active and sweet during the ultrasound. She stretched her legs all the way up to her head and grabbed her toes at one point, like she was getting limber for a run. ๐Ÿ™‚ I believe in my heart of hearts that she is perfect and healthy, just like her more chill brother!

This did slightly take the wind out of my sails….I admit that I teared up at Dr. Zen’s merest mention that there was something to discuss and found my heart racing and I’ve had it in the back of my head all day long, as hubs and I trekked out to Ikea to start thinking about the nursery. Dr. Zen was incredibly calm, reassuring and understanding. And thank the lord that hubs was in the room to hear everything in his usual objective, calm manner, as well. As for me, you guys know I am anxious and freak-outโ€“prone and I am trying my very best to be Zen.

We go to NYC for a wedding this weekend so that will help pass the time until this next ultrasound…..please let everything be okay with our sweet Baby B.

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43 responses to “Let’s do that again next week, shall we?

  1. i have had 2 sets of twins both times there were all kinds of things that they werent really worried about but of course they have to share with you, we had shadows, and all kinds of defect and markers show up, we did the amnios just so we knew what we were dealing with in the end although it was risky, we did just the child with a question and we did the placenta testing, not pleasent but very thurough and we got to enjoy and embrace the rest of the pregnacy i felt differently for weeks prior and post fear got the best of me but i did my nervous nelly personality a favor and bought my 1 fix and hunkered down after the results that i have to let this happen. what ever you choose, its your emotion, and your children. but remember high risk pregnacies, and drs look at you under a microscope…its thier job to watch you so closly and look ahead for problems so dont be suprised in my expierence if they find something a little hiccup here or there all the time that was something i was not ready for, so i try to share that we pay these experts to find fix and patrol our children when in fact, your babies are already made, waiting to meet you and no matter what, they are already perfect in your eyes , your heart and all those who love them.

  2. So excited to hear about your boy & girl!! I’m sure everything is 100% fine and I look forward to hearing that when you go for the 2nd ultrasound. Enjoy your trip to NYC!

  3. lifebytheday

    Everything is going to be FINE…just relax and enjoy the wonderful news about your baby boy AND girl!! ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. Egg, totally email me if you need to…I seriously felt you were writing about my anatomy appt! And like you said the chance of it being anything more than a “soft marker” is so slim and my dr. said the same thing that she wished she didn’t even have to tell people, she is going to be just perfect! And omg, a boy and a girl eggie…that is SO amazing!! So excited for you Egg!!

  5. AHHHH! Boy/girl twins- what a dream!!! The biggest congrats, Egg!!

  6. cw

    my heart started racing with enjoyment for you. how exciting. a boy and a girl. that is what I had predicted. for some reason i just thought the one that came from that little dark spot was going to be a girl. i am sure that she is only telling you those details as ethically she has to. but if Dr Zen is zen about it then I guess you need to be to. i wanna come to ikea as well!!!! the cot I would love is called a leander cot. that is my dream cot for my dream baby bedroom! Eggie I am so thrilled for you and Mr Egg ๐Ÿ™‚

  7. Lesley

    A boy and a girl!!! How exciting!!!

    I totally understand why you are worried– I definitely would be too– but it seems to me that the NT test and quad screen are WAY better markers for downs than the heart thingy. And you passed those with no problem.

  8. Eeeeee! A BOY AND A GIRL! Somehow, this just seems so right to me!!! Is that a weird thing to say? I love the thought of Baby B being a runner just like her mama! Congrats, dear Egg! ๐Ÿ™‚

  9. sienna

    yaay for one of each!!!!! honestly, the way you described how the scan went and your doc’s words, this calcification on baby b’s heart sounds like nada. i believe in my heart of hearts that she is 100% a-okay and that this isn’t anything to worry about. which is easier said than done of course, bc i know you’ll worry. BUT, you’ll get another good look at both babies in just ONE WEEK and in a week’s time, you’ll be breathing a sigh of relief, okay? deep breaths. everything is going to be perfecto!!! the best news is that you passed both the nt test and this screen was good. thinking of you :o) xoxoxoxo.

  10. Nicole

    A boy and a girl is perfect! I’m sure all is well in there.

  11. jc

    WOOT WOOT!!! OMG so excited for your baby BOY and GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! =)

  12. Jin

    Awww, yay Egg! That’s so great. Where’s the pictures? ๐Ÿ˜‰

    I had to get 2 extra anatomy scans with the MFM. It all turned out well, and a healthy little girl. Have fun at the wedding!

  13. Oh my goodness, one of each!!! What a giant wonderful blessing!!!!!!!!!! You get a complete family just all in one go ๐Ÿ™‚ Congrats, Egg!!

    As for Baby B, I honestly believe that there is absolutely NOTHING to worry about. You have no other risk factors whatsoever and what they found is so small, it really can’t be an important marker, not without other things accompanying it. I know you’ll worry anyway, but I say nothing to worry about. Just rest up and try to feel your little boy and girl moving around in there ๐Ÿ™‚

  14. lady pumpkin

    One of each–what fun! And I’m excited for you that you’ll get to see them again next week. Have a lovely weekend in our fair city! xoxo

  15. Heidi

    oh. my. gosh. a boy and a girl!!!!! that is sooooooo amazing!!!! and you get to play with them next week, too! i think God knows what he’s doing and just wanted an excuse to give you some more 1:1 time with them so soon ๐Ÿ™‚ everything will be perfect–have a blast this weekend, soak in alll the congrats you will get, and enjoy this thing called pregnancy which you have hoped for for soooo long ๐Ÿ™‚

  16. Things just keep getting better and better!! What amazing news, I am so incredibly happy for you! My brother has twins – boy and girl – and they are just so frickin cute and sweet and hilarious, they melt my heart every time I see them. Sweet dreams about your sweet babies tonight ๐Ÿ™‚

  17. finch

    Okay, I would have said that 2 sweet little girls would have been perfect, cause who doesn’t love girls? But boys are amazing too (Tiger being a prime example), so 2 of them would have been a dream come true. But one of each?? Oh Egg, nothing can beat that! You are so incredibly blessed. Congratulations!

  18. How exciting! had to be fun to watch them for that long on the ultrasound. ๐Ÿ™‚ Congratulations!

  19. Cat

    Wowowow a boy and a girl, how delightful!!!!! And I had done an EXTREME amount of research regarding the bright spot on the heart for a friend and it is STILL a less than 1% chance of ANY abnormality when one of those are present. I guarantee you that if there were a chromosome issue like downs that the quad screen or OTHER ultrasound findings would’ve been positive. Everything looks good and that means a greater than 99% chance that things are fine. You can’t beat that. I am soooooooo excited for you and can’t wait to hear about next week’s “bonus scan” when you get to see your darlings dancing again.

  20. Boy and girl twins! Oh, Egg, I am so happy for you.

    And your active little girl is FINE FINE FINE!! She is clearly a little troublemaker and needs that chill brother to give her some zen.

    I’m so excited for you guys!!!

  21. A BOY! A GIRL! How totally perfect! Not that any other permutation wouldn’t have been perfect too, but I can’t help but feel like this is really twice the fun! I mean, you get to pick out girl stuff AND boy stuff! EEEEEE! I second what Sienna says–I know in my heart everything is just fine, and clearly your doctor knows this too. Any time you feel anxiety rear its head, just get your husband to remind you how totally not worried the medical professional is.

  22. You get one of both!!! congrats! Your family will be complete ๐Ÿ˜‰ I hope the MFM appointment goes well. Try not to worry, my job is sorta in the sphere of this stuff and if you had a good quad screen and they haven’t found anything else I am hoping your baby will be just fine.

  23. Wow – one of each! That’s so awesome. Congratulations!

  24. A boy and a girl…could you die?? I am thrilled for you!

  25. I hope you had the peaceful sleep you deserve last night and that some of your worry is subsiding. Your babies are going to both be so healthy, happy and perfect – and how wonderful to have a sweet egg boy and a sweet egg girl! Sending positive thoughts and much zen to you!!!

  26. CONGRATULATIONS my friend! A healthy boy and a healthy girl! Sooooooo exciting! You will have so much fun shopping for them now that you know! Awesome. So happy for you!

    And don’t worry for one second about Baby B. She is 100% fine. If you’re doctor isn’t worried then you shouldn’t be worried one bit. I think all these medical advances and tests are amazing, but sometimes I think we know a little bit too much…which usually just causes extra worry. Your little girl is FINE.

    xoxo

  27. AL

    Squeeeee!!! A healthy baby boy and a healthy baby girl!!! That is so amazing and exciting :-)!!!

    Your baby girl is just fine, the doc is not concerned and you shouldn’t be either! They are both growing perfectly – ahead of schedule, even – in there – nothin’ to be concerned about whatsoever! Try not to worry, Egg, the doc isn’t!

    Have fun shopping, my friend!

  28. LTB

    Boy and Girl! The best! So excited and happy for you Egg! And I totally agree with everyone else…they are being super cautious with you because its twins and despite the nerves I’m sure you feel I KNOW everything will be FINE and PERFECT and WONDERFUL! Enjoy your trip to NY and I’m just happy you get another peak at your babies next week!
    stay zen!!!
    LTB

  29. Tarah

    CONGRATS!!! That is such fantastic news! I’m grinning like mad over here for you!

    My aunt had the same issue with the heart on her 4th pregnancy – and let me tell you how 100% perfect that little boy turned out to be. He’s fine, he’s healthy and he’s totally active and adorable – loved by all.

    Trust your gut, trust your heart – if you think your little girl is fine – she’s fine. I’ll say an extra prayer for you but I have a feeling you won’t be needing it. ๐Ÿ™‚

  30. HUGEST CONGRATS on your boy and girl!!! YAAAY! Stay *calm* and have a fantastic weekend in NYC. Your next appt will be here before we know it.

  31. Oh my God Egg, how awesome!!! One of each – and they are already complementing each other so well…one zen and one active. I love that your little girl was getting ready for a run, it just proves that she is a tough little egg (just like her momma) and is going to be absolutely perfect!

    I think we’re trading places this weekend. Hubby and I are heading to Chicago to visit family and friends:) I hope you have safe and fun travels in NYC.

  32. congrats on a boy AND a girl! how perfect! yaaaaay!

    and baby girl is gonna be juuuuust fine. you’ll see! she’s strong and determined like her momma. zenzenzen and breathebreathebreathe!

    enjoy your trip to NYC! it’s cold here so button up!

  33. YAY!!!!! A boy and a girl? How sweet is that?

    Also, I literally have FIVE friends who have had the heart calcification issue, and they all have beautiful, healthy babies. I’d be happy to ask them for more info if you’d like.

  34. DON’T WORRY! The EXACT same thing happened to us with our son (who is almost 3!) They thought they saw a spot on his heart – we had to go in a week later for an Echo of his heart…and he was just fine! I know it’s hard not to worry…but those doctors have to tell you the info by law! I know everything will be just fine – if it wasn’t, the dr. would have been WAY MORE concerned…and they wouldn’t have made you wait a week to get it check out! PROMISE!
    Congrats on having a little boy and girl…so exciting!

  35. A boy and a girl!!! So excited for you! Everything is going to be fine. No doubts.

  36. FCblacksheep

    I knew it! A boy and a girl. That’s awesome! So happy for you egg.

  37. Mara

    Yay for a boy and a girl!! That’s such exciting news.

    Dude, I know how that news would have made me feel (because I am CRAZY) but because it’s not me and I’m able to be objective, I’m SURE everything is fine. This sounds just like Basic Girl’s experience, and since your screening tests were clear, I’m sure it’s all good.

    So – yay! Congrats! So exciting. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Have a great time at the wedding!

  38. Bestie, that is wonderful news. The best of both worlds! I am so happy for you and hubs!!!

  39. Megan

    I am a lurker, but we were also diagnosed with an echogenic cardiac focus at 20w with my son, who is now 2 (and healthy by the way). It was the scariest thing ever, but I can assure you that I have not met anyone who had that diagnosis whose child actually had down syndrome. My doctor said it is ridiculous that they even have to mention it, and didn’t believe research even showed it WAS a marker. I did tons of research and again, could not come up with ANY conclusive evidence that this was a marker (particularly if it is the only one). I met and talked with tons of mothers who had that diagnosis, and again, all of their children were healthy. There used to be a forum for this on babycenter, not sure if it is still there. As someone who struggled with infertility and miscarriages, I understand the total fear this causes but I hope to ease some of that fear for you. PLEASE do not worry too terribly much.

  40. Kelly

    A boy AND a girl sounds completely awesome. I’m so happy for you, babe!

  41. lynm

    congratulations! a boy and a girl!!!
    yay!!!!

  42. OMG: what a great scenario; one boy and one girl!!! It’s every infertilites dream (at least mine!) Don’t worry, things will be great. My mom does US’s for MFM and it is AMAZING how many are just blips and things are PERFECT and that will be your case as well. Continue smiling, continue loving those fabulously healthy babes and enjoy every moment ๐Ÿ™‚

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